In
someone who has a need to control, feelings of inadequacy produce rage,
which is extreme anger toward one's self for lacking the ability to
control the people and circumstances in one's life. It is the most
extreme expression of low self-esteem for it implies there is an
external, physical-world circumstance that cannot be overcome, which is
simply not true. It indicates a belief that one's value is attached to
the accumulation of things and control over one's physical experience,
which is impossible and would not produce real self-worth even if one
managed to achieve it.
We, as humans, perceive from our center,
outward. This design causes us to lead with the assumption that
everything happening in our lives is about us, when in fact, most of us
are so focused on our own thoughts, on looking for evidence of what we
want to believe, that largely our assumptions are ghost trails leading
nowhere. Our minds create scenarios from which we select details to
affirm that of which we are already convinced. We have veered off of a
rational path, acting out of fear and delusional certainty that our
erroneous thinking is correct, so at this point, our perception has
fueled our actions, setting in motion a string of circumstances we will
come to regret.
Often we think if we can control this person or
that situation, we'll be able to keep everything in order. If not, not.
When what is not controllable, reacts true to form, we tighten our grip
in the belief that what is needed is more control. More control is
definitely not the answer; its about relinquishing control. You see, no
one ever does anything because of us or really even for us. It is all
about one's relationship with one's self, projected outward.
When we understand we are responsible for how we feel, for how we respond to what happens and for how we embrace the circumstances of our lives, we will begin to spend time cultivating a more disciplined mind. If our mind is undisciplined, we tend to react to what is happening from an emotionally knee-jerk response because we are attached or invested in an outcome we feel we must control. No one can make us feel, be or do anything that is not already vibrationally activated within us to do or feel or be. To know that our value is not determined by another's opinion, nor by another's attention, nor by another's approval or presence, is to begin to comprehend our worth, respecting ourselves and cultivating self-love.
We, as humans, perceive from our center,
outward. This design causes us to lead with the assumption that
everything happening in our lives is about us, when in fact, most of us
are so focused on our own thoughts, on looking for evidence of what we
want to believe, that largely our assumptions are ghost trails leading
nowhere. Our minds create scenarios from which we select details to
affirm that of which we are already convinced. We have veered off of a
rational path, acting out of fear and delusional certainty that our
erroneous thinking is correct, so at this point, our perception has
fueled our actions, setting in motion a string of circumstances we will
come to regret. 
Often we think if we can control this person or
that situation, we'll be able to keep everything in order. If not, not.
When what is not controllable, reacts true to form, we tighten our grip
in the belief that what is needed is more control. More control is
definitely not the answer; its about relinquishing control. You see, no
one ever does anything because of us or really even for us. It is all
about one's relationship with one's self, projected outward.When we understand we are responsible for how we feel, for how we respond to what happens and for how we embrace the circumstances of our lives, we will begin to spend time cultivating a more disciplined mind. If our mind is undisciplined, we tend to react to what is happening from an emotionally knee-jerk response because we are attached or invested in an outcome we feel we must control. No one can make us feel, be or do anything that is not already vibrationally activated within us to do or feel or be. To know that our value is not determined by another's opinion, nor by another's attention, nor by another's approval or presence, is to begin to comprehend our worth, respecting ourselves and cultivating self-love.
© 2015
Robert
Madden
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