I find it interesting, how when we have a strong need for something or someone, we say we are in love. When we are in this state of mind, we don't want to believe, or even recognize behavior or questionable signs in the other person's character.
We are willing to explain away so much we know isn't right. To
maintain our fantasy we will ignore things which
eventually lead to pain and peril for ourselves - and then we say to ourselves, "Love Hurts!" No it doesn't. What hurts is ignoring our inner
voice. What hurts is how we will throw ourselves away to make room for
someone who actually has no regard for us. We sacrifice our ability to see innocently, in the hope we will be seen by this person who is emotionally blind.
We abandon ourselves, expecting the other person to appreciate those things we've abandoned, bringing them back to us. We expect this other person to restore us, when he has no idea what we're wanting or expecting. Not that he could achieve this impossible task anyway, but then we're surprised and crushed when he leaves.
We must put as much effort into loving ourselves as we put into getting another to love us. If we don't think we're worth it, neither will he. If we don't honor our voice, neither will he. If your choices aren't respectful of yourself, his won't be respectful of you either.
Ultimately,
true love is liberating, joyful and freeing. This we must have for
ourselves, before we will allow another to be free. Otherwise, jealous,
possessive feelings arise in us from the unworthiness we feel. If we
don't already have this, we will never allow another to love us in the
way we most desire. We will either make him wrong enough times that he
will leave or we will, as we cannot accept another person's view of us
that we don't share.
We find ourselves saying under our breath, "Life Sucks!" No, it doesn't. We may suck at it, but life is a beautiful array of desires from which to choose, a loving tutorial meant to guide us into an alignment with our Divine Self.
We
choose to be uplifted by our circumstances or defeated by them. We
choose to be optimistic or pessimistic. We choose to see value in
ourselves or we keep picking people who reflect back to us the ways in
which we don't. There are thorny patches on every path, how we approach
and navigate them is unique to each of us, as every choice we make is a
reflection of our perceived self worth.
It's
worth taking the time to cultivate appreciation and acceptance of
yourself. The quality of your life, quite literally, depends upon it.
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