CULTIVATE POSITIVE EXPECTATIONS

 If I am for me, what do I care who is against me? Whatever one may hold in his mind about me or about an encounter with me, is not me anymore.  It might have been me in that moment, but that moment is over. I've expanded from the experience, incapable of remaining in a static picture. This is when the issue held in one's mind becomes about him and no longer should concern me. Once I've owned my part of the situation, made peace with those I've harmed, and cleaned up my side of the street, it's over for me.

When someone comes at  you with his hostility, despair, irrational fear, or hateful intentions, you, knowing it doesn't come from you or anything you are doing with your life, words or intentions, you are not required to respond. If you respond in kind with an energy which matches or reacts as a victim, to his obvious attempt to provoke you into his story, then you cease to create your own reality.  You have become a secondary character in his story. Do not waste one minute not loving who you are by validating the story of someone who is lost in hate, intolerance or sorrow.

Forgiveness is absolutely necessary and can be accomplished without the person being present.  It is as much for us as it is for those we are forgiving,  We cannot live a happy life of positive expansion, joyful interaction or meaningful relationships if we live in the past or if we see life in the negative. 

It's tough to re-groove the mind into a positive, optimistic expectation once we have lived a while seeing and expecting in the negative, but we have to find a way to see the life we want.  It requires discipline, for we cannot pull a positive, joyous life out of negative expectations.  It is impossible as it defies the laws of an attraction based universe.

We get back what matches, vibrationally, that which is emanating from us. It's not about how we act, it's clearly responding to how we feel, mostly about out own worthiness and lovability. Everything else is a reflection of that and when we see this, understand it, embrace it, then we begin to see ourselves as we are; we become fearless!  Our lives become full, our actions bold!  We no longer wait to live in response to situations created by outside forces.  Now we are the Creator of our experience.  In short, our life is no longer on top of us, instead, we are on top of our Life.

 

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CHOOSE FOR YOURSELF

Self Respect is an element of every choice we make, every day. It is the foundation upon which our character is built and the soil in which our Self Love takes root. When our foundation is sound, we trust in the stability of our choices, cultivating a rich, healthy, vibrant Love of Self.  We make choices considering and reflecting a deep reverence for ourselves that emerges from an understanding of our Divine Nature.  From this level of Self Knowledge, we begin to Create deliberately, coming into an awareness of our Power and living a Life of Appreciation and Purpose.

It would be tremendously beneficial to all of our communications with others, if we'd only stop kidding ourselves. I, for one, am so tired of hearing the excuse, "I had no choice." Yes, you did. There is, in every choice, at minimum, 2 choices; Do the thing or don't do the thing.  The choice, in this instance, is the abdication of responsibility or accepting responsibility for your previous choices. Often when one chooses to allow others to determine, by word or manipulation, where they go, what they do and how they will arrive there, he is living a reactionary story. This behavior demonstrates a lack of self-confidence, distrust of one's ability to make appropriate sound decisions and fear of being responsible for one's own destiny. This person is living in a crisis mentality and has an air of quiet desperation and hopelessness. How can this be turned around? CHOOSE FOR YOURSELF WITH SELF-RESPECT AS YOUR GUIDE. We always have a choice! Every time, no exception! Realizing this, is a practical first step in reclaiming your personal power.

Now, I'm not saying all choices we're faced with are optimal, but you will have much more power and move in the direction of absolute personal autonomy if you make even a difficult unpleasant choice because it will carry you to a place of perhaps better footing, than if you just let the choice be made for you and are bitter the entire time. 

 

A conscious choice carries with it the power of your intention, whereas the choice by default exudes weakness and says you are rudderless in your journey. Also, in the first instance, when we make an active choice and then proceed to find a way to make it a joyful experience, we align with the aspect of ourselves which is always trying to move us in the direction of our greater good. The other is like a cul de sac, it goes nowhere, but wallows in misery, becoming distorted in the way the world is viewed and therefore interaction with it becomes irrational and fearful. 

Relationships should help you, not hurt you. Surround yourself with people who reflect the person you want to be. Choose friends who you are proud to know, people you admire, who love and respect you, people who make your day a little brighter simply by being in it.  

When we make strong conscious choices with deliberate intention, we are uplifted. We feel empowered and our life begins to blossom. Own your decisions and then move forward with love and confidence. You will transform your life!

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